So I maybe, sorta, kinda – completely dropped off the face of the blogging earth!
You know things are bad when you don’t even remember the password to get back into said blog. *yikes* To give you a little insight, it started with me “getting too busy” at my (at the time) new job. #adultingwoes (how ironic)… It ventured into, “everyone is suddenly a blogger; this whole social media thing feels inauthentic. I can’t do this”… THEN I fell into a tunnel of, “My personal life is on a roller coaster ain't nobody got time for that. Plus I don’t even know what to write anymore,” and after promising some amazingly, encouraging people that “I’m starting back this month,” but finding myself not even able to open the link to my blog month after month … Well, I guess that you can say, I just kind of gave up. So since this has been the worlds longest break, please let me reintroduce myself… Hello. My name is Carly Coutts, and I am human. A beautifully flawed, imperfectly perfect, falls-off-the-wagon-but-always-hops-back-on kind of human.
For those of you now joining me, I began this blog back in 2016 (Wow! Time is flying) as a way to share the trials and triumphs of adulthood with you, but somewhere along the way, “adulthood” got the best of me.
SCORE BOARD: Adulthood: 1 , Carly: 0 Mmmm not fair... Let's say, Adulthood: 5 Carly: 3 (I've had my moments) So in the far-too-much-time-that-has-passed-since-I-last-wrote, I did manage to figure out a thing or two about my absence and excuses that I thought important to share with you. Shall we begin?... EXCUSE #1: I'M “TOO BUSY" Let's start with, “too busy” is NOT an excuse; Not in your relationship, not for your health, not for your life. You can and will always prioritize what’s important to you (and I don't know how it took me this long to realize, but writing is important to me!). In 2019 everyone seems to think that unless they are ‘sooooo busy omg’ they aren’t being productive or successful. I’m telling you right now that time management is REAL and you can be productive without being BUSY 24/7. I had my first real, crippling, panic attack this year from being ‘sooo busy,’ and not taking care of myself properly. I looked around at all that I was sooo busy with and realized that my blog (something that was a true joy to me) was no where to be found. Lesson? While there are so many here, I'd really like to say: It’s okay to look at your work load and say "tomorrow is another day" fam! Sometimes you just need to switch off and take an hour to do what brings you joy (like spending time with family, writing...or drinking a margarita, who's judging?!) and THAT’S OKAY! In university "tomorrow fu dat" was my motto - but somewhere deep into 'adulting' I thought that adults weren't allowed a 'tomorrow' - THIS IS FALSE. A time management driven 'tomorrow' isn't taboo; it may just be in your best interest!
EXCUSE #2: “EVERYONE IS SUDDENLY A BLOGGER; THIS WHOLE SOCIAL MEDIA THING FEELS INAUTHENTIC AND I CAN'T DO THIS." Well firstly - SO WHAT if everyone wants to blog, and secondly, social media is only inauthentic if you let it be! If you've ever had even half of a guardian growing up, then you've heard the saying: ‘If everyone is going to jump off the bridge, are you going to jump too?!’ While the answer is usually a deep sigh and a meek, 'well, no.' This epiphany had me feeling differently... WHAT IF I WANTED TO JUMP OFF THAT BRIDGE THOUGH?? Like, what if I had a bungee cord and a plan the whole time and instead, I’m now standing on the edge watching all the fun happen?! Why should I now stop because everyone else wants to join in on the fun?? In the age that we live in it's quite difficult to NOT do something that everyone isn't already doing (especially on the small island that I live on). Whether you're a make up artist, a designer, a doctor or otherwise- EVERYONE'S DOING IT! Lesson? Don't quit what you love because others love it too... If it's competition that you're worried about, JUST DO IT BETTER. & That thing about being inauthentic? SIMPLY DON'T BE. It's as easy as that. Fake may often = Views, but Real = Respect REMEMBER THAT.
EXCUSE #3: “I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO WRITE ANYMORE"
Writers block exists, & that's okay; just don't let the pressure of society make you overthink what comes naturally to you. I never started this blog for views, but humbled by views came the pressure to provide. I've noticed that often, everything we do is 'almost finished' as we wait for the 'right time' to share with our audience. Lesson? In whatever field you're in: DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT. Showing up is truly half the battle. SO WITH THAT SAID: HELLO! I AM HERE I AM BACK (Eeep! Commitment is scary) & I AM READY TO SHARE WITH YOU THE CONFUSING, NERVE-WRECKING, EXCITING JOURNEY OF WHAT BEING TWENTY-SOMETHING FEELS LIKE. FELLOW 20-SOMETHING'S, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I gatchew.
Shout-out to the incredible woman in Superpharm who spotted me, and was brave enough to share with me the way my writing changed her life…You've never left my mind. This ones for you.
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Nick
1/8/2019 01:16:25 pm
You’re definitely on to $omething here Carly!
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