“ I KNEW IT! I’M NOT CRAZY!!!”
Ladies, tell me you’ve never thought those words before, and I will tell you that you’re lying; AND IF BY SOME MYSTICAL CHANCE of fate, you were born from the hands of a Greek God of perfection – Well…men…I suggest that you go find that lady and NEVER LET HER GO. Meeh. On second thought, denial is the worst kind of crazy; be careful 'cuz that can't be normal. But seriously ladies – You know those moments when you can’t quite tell if you’re totally nuts, or if that ‘friend’ smiling at you everyday is ACTUALLY out to get you? Or what about when your partner continuously tells you to ‘stop being so jealous,’ but you’re convinced that his eyes are straying. (Disclaimer: my boyfriend has not done this, don’t penalize him haha) Or sometimes - FOR NO SOLID REASON AT ALL – you just have a GUT feeling about someone… Then there’s the ex boyfriend's crazy new girlfriends, or the new boyfriend's crazy ex girlfriends, OR THE BOYFRIEND HIMSELF (or g/f)... the competitive coworker, the questionable friends, the suspicious acquaintances, potential in-laws? … maybe even family. There are truly NO LIMITS when it comes to the people who can make you question your crazy. Let’s be honest with ourselves here though. We know that deep down we all have a little crazy running through our veins. Sometimes we have it under control, other times it comes out unannounced and the next thing you know, you’re nuzzling your unimpressed partner with puppy dog eyes. Hey! No judgement, it happens to the best of us. A little crazy between loved ones can always be forgiven. To me, the issue arrises when crazy comes with a smile. When another person decides to swoop into my mental space and make me question myself. - no, no, no. “Am I just being dramatic?” “Do you think he realizes what he’s doing?” “Maybe she’s oblivious.” “Maybe it was an accident.” “Maybe I’m overreacting.” “I must be overthinking this situation.” The questions haunt you as your quick mind, stubborn gut, and ruthless reality pummel one another to the ground. It feels as though you've stepped into an episode of 'Mental Maury.' The problem is that the opposing crazy is cloaked, and it's the pretense of normal that makes you feel crazy. The abuse always continues until the security of truth finally comes to settle the scuffle. “You are... .................... ........................ ............................ NOT the f̶a̶t̶h̶e̶r̶ crazy!” The crowd goes WILD as the truth is revealed. The explosion of excitement is unmatched. “UGHHH. I KNEW IT! I KNEW IT!” The relief is so severe that we actually (at least for a moment) dismiss the fact that we’ve been wronged, naïve or mislead. Which … in hindsight … probably makes us a little crazier than we give ourselves credit for. C'est la vive My point is though: I don't know about you, but my instincts, for the most part, do not lead me astray. If someone is making you feel as though you're crazy, you need to step back and reevaluate the situation. 9/10 times, we women can handle the crazy all on our own, we don't need a third party to add to it. Jealousy doesn't come out of thin air. If you're feeling 'jealous' in a relationship - your partner should probably be paying more attention to you. Someone acting peculiar around you? - There's probably a reason why. A colleague is continuously stepping on your toes with a smile? - She's probably smarter than you give her credit for. A friend once pointed out to me, that certain individuals can bring out the CRAZY in others. The key is to BE AWARE OF THIS, and handle it with poise. If you're in a situation that's making you feel like you're crazy : CONFRONT IT or WALK AWAY. Question yourself once: Self reflection is a reputable trait to have. Question yourself constantly: There's trouble on the horizon. Trust me, Women usually have a solid gauge of when we're being crazy. Whether we care to contain it or not is a different story - But if YOU'RE NOT SURE... You're not sure if you 'have the right' to be feeling a certain way... That's a clear sign that there is a situation to be dealt with. Get to the bottom of the issue, or have the courage to step away from it all together. Don't linger. Staying wrapped up in the episode of 'Mental Muary' - THAT'S what will really take you from questionably crazy to queen of Crazyville.
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